115 - How To Stick To Your Plan On The Weekend
Weekends can feel like a vicious cycle that lead to us feeling hopeless and completely powerless. We feel like victims of the weekends, but at the same time, we can’t stop arguing for the fact that weekends simply feel factually harder than Mondays through Fridays. So, what the hell do we do about it?
If sticking to your plan on the weekend currently feels impossible to you, you’re not alone. So many people find weekdays easier to stay committed to the process and follow their eating plans. But as soon as Friday night or Saturday rolls around, their brains want to overeat and generally get sloppy for the sake of fun and “just because.”
Weekends can feel like a vicious cycle that lead to us feeling hopeless and completely powerless. We feel like victims of the weekends, but at the same time, we can’t stop arguing for the fact that weekends simply feel factually harder than Mondays through Fridays. So, what the hell do we do about it?
Listen in this week as we show you how the weekends are standing in the way of the results you want, and how we’ve adjusted our protocols to stop letting weekends halt our progress. We’re offering some hard truths about weekends that might be hard to swallow at first, and our best tips for making it easier for yourself to stick to your plan when the weekend rolls around.
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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- The 2 ways not having a weekend plan becomes a problem.
- Why the weekends are so difficult for so many people.
- How my weekends have stopped getting in the way of my progress.
- Why getting really honest with yourself is crucial for success.
- What happens when you believe weekends are harder than weekdays.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Maggie: Hi, I’m Maggie. I’ve lost a combined 90 pounds after having my two kids and struggling with postpartum depression and anxiety. I teach you how to lose weight a different way, how to fix the thoughts in your head holding you back from finally taking weight loss off your to do list. Losing weight doesn’t need to be a struggle. And it’s my mission to help you love the process all the way down the scale. If you’re ready to lose weight a different way then let’s get it.
Ryan: Good afternoon.
Maggie: Welcome, welcome to the podcast.
Ryan: How’s it going?
Maggie: It’s going good, feeling cold, that’s fine.
Ryan: What’s up with this room?
Maggie: I don’t know. Our podcast room just gets really cold even though it has a vent, so we’re freezing but that’s okay.
Ryan: I literally had to put a sweater on, kind of sucks.
Maggie: It’s been a really long time since we asked people to rate and review the podcast. But I want to just take a quick second to do that.
Ryan: Yeah, right.
Maggie: If you guys – I love reading reviews regardless.
Ryan: Good or bad.
Maggie: Good or bad. I mean I don’t love bad ones but if you’re getting any value from this podcast just take the time to rate and review it. It just helps us to get out to more people who are looking for this type of information. I like to believe that what we’re sharing on this podcast is very different than what’s out there, especially this time of year, especially with everything the way that it is right now in the diet industry and all that. So it’s very important to me to get this in the ears of as many people as possible and when you do that it really helps.
I love reading it. I love knowing what’s impacting you. But it also helps other people to say, “This is worth even my time.” So if you could do that, love a good five star review and to just hear what’s resonating with you.
Ryan: Yeah. Tell us what is helping you specifically.
Maggie: Yeah. What would you say you hear back the most?
Ryan: The thing I hear the most is that we changed some people’s perspective.
Maggie: Yeah, getting even more specific I feel the thing I hear most is so many people enjoying their favorite foods without feeling guilty. That’s the number one thing I see written. I guess I get a little confused because I also get DMs a lot about the podcast, which, by the way, if you’re going to DM me about the podcast. I’ve never thought of this before but maybe I’m going to redirect you and I’m going to thank you, also can you go leave it because you’re basically giving me a podcast review in my DM.
Ryan: What you should do is create yourself a shortcut to give them a link to leave a review.
Maggie: Yeah, alright, well, when you know better you do better. So anyway, sometimes I get confused about that. But that’s what I hear the most, “I’ve been listening to your podcast.” And these are people that aren’t even in Vibe Club yet. But they’re listening to the podcast.
Ryan: You can get a lot done.
Maggie: Yeah, you can. There are so many people who have lost a lot of weight listening to this podcast, really changed their experience with vacations, with weekends, with food in general, with carbs, with sugar. They’ve just been able to create a new perspective for themselves. I heard another coach describe it really well about the impact of a 2% shift. We’re all looking for this 100% shift where we’re a new person. But the impact of a 2% shift that just barely changes things where you’re like, “Whoa, I’ll never see that the same way again.”
And it just takes you off on a completely other path, that’s what can happen if you implement what we talk about in this podcast.
Ryan: Yeah. And while you’re at it, if you aren’t following the show, if you hit the follow button you won’t have to research for the podcast every Friday when we drop our episodes.
Maggie: You should not be doing that, yeah.
Ryan: It’ll just automatically be there. So you should definitely do that.
Maggie: Yeah. I think it’s pretty early in the morning on Fridays so that you can just, because you know why I did that?
Ryan: Tell us why.
Maggie: Why the segue comes into my head. You know why I set it up for Fridays? Because of the support that I feel people need on the weekend. And I was shocked to learn that we don’t really have a weekend specific podcast.
Ryan: We don’t?
Maggie: I mean no.
Ryan: So you set it up for our podcast to drop Friday to help people follow their shit over the weekend?
Maggie: Yeah. I know some people listen to it maybe on the car ride to work on Friday or whatever. But if you’re like me, you’ve got shit to do on the weekends and you have to do laundry and you have to do things, but you want to be self-developing while you do that because it’s just who I am. I’m never doing laundry and not learning something at the same time ever. But the weekend is the time when people get off course.
Ryan: And that’s what we’re talking about today.
Maggie: And that’s what we’re talking about today, I feel we’ve learned so much about this, still learning about it. But just kind of looking back and seeing what stood in the way, first of all. Because it stood in the way for a long freaking time. I mean immovable. I don’t mean it was pretty good. I mean failure as far as staying on my plan for the weekend for a year. It was bad. It was bad in the sense of I could not figure out how to get over that hurdle. It was a really, really long time. So figuring out what was going wrong, what was keeping us where we were at.
Versus now what is different? What has changed? How did we overcome that? So getting down to the nitty gritty thinking and then also what we’re doing now that’s different.
Ryan: Yeah. You told me to prepare for this and I did not prepare for it.
Maggie: Amazing. I’m going to just freestyle.
Ryan: Okay, so we’re talking about weekends. I’m in the thick of it with weekends right now to be honest.
Maggie: Yeah. Okay fine. I’ll coach you. Just kidding. What’s the problem?
Ryan: I feel I’m getting to the bottom of it but for the last six months I’ve really maintained where I’ve been at. And I feel I’m at about 15% body fat. So the things that got me here are not the same things that are going to keep me moving if I want to lose more body fat, which I do. And just the fact that I’ve maintained it alone is pretty badass. But I started journaling and I started really looking at everything I’m doing. And I have been great Monday through Friday for the most part. And even some weekends I’ve done great.
But I think I have figured, I learned that I was overeating on our date nights. And what I’m realizing is that even events like that, although I’ve been great all week, overeating on a date night can actually offset what I’ve done Monday through Friday.
Maggie: Well yeah, and let’s talk first of all why it’s a problem. Why it’s a problem to not have your weekends on lock. And I see two problems. One of them is that you are really doing what you’ve got to do during the weekend and then you’re way, way, way overeating to the point where you’re gaining a bunch of weight on the weekend, only to have to lose that weight through the entire next week.
I have coached people on this before. Literally I lost five pounds this week and again, most of my clients are keto or low carb, a large portion of that water. But they lose five pounds during the week, getting back on track and then they go ham on the weekend, they gain five pounds. And then they’re doing that.
Ryan: Well, when you say five pounds, that’s definitely water fluctuation.
Maggie: It’s absolutely water weight, yeah. But I mean when you’re constantly eating, and I found myself in this place, it would always kick off on Fridays, Friday nights, it would start with Chinese food and cookies. And then it would lead into the whole, so it would end up being three days of overeating. So you’re either going to have an issue where you’re gaining weight or you’re going to have an issue where you’re maintaining your weight. So you’re just going to keep seeing the scale going up down, up down, which is what you’ve been seeing.
Ryan: So many people have this problem. Whatever happens on the weekend negates what you did Monday through Friday.
Maggie: Which is a tough pill to swallow for a lot of people.
Ryan: It is.
Maggie: Because they are like, you’re telling me two days of screwing around undoes five days of not. And it’s, yeah, at a certain point, yeah. You can also make a lot of progress. But what Ryan is talking about is getting to a point where you don’t have that leeway anymore, where the difference between where you are and where you want to be, you can’t be sloppy. You can’t overeat just for fun. You can’t overeat because you just want to. That has to stop.
But remember, he’s going from 15% body fat to 10%. He’s at the very, very tail end. We’re talking the last quarter mile of this weight loss process.
Ryan: And if I was in a place where I was fine with maintaining where I’m at, I would just continue.
Maggie: And you could be, there would be nothing to change.
Ryan: There would be nothing to change at all.
Maggie: So the tradeoff that you have to make, what you have to give up is the overeating that remains. That sucks sometimes.
Ryan: And for some reason I didn’t really make the connection to be honest. When you’re eating out, I think it’s really easy to overeat. When you’re eating out it’s really hard to be conscious of how full or how hungry you still are. Because you get the appetizers, you get the shit in front of you and then you’re just like here we go! You know what I mean? So eating out can be a slippery slope. And I have done a good job of eating the meal. I wasn’t eating until I was sick or stuffed, I know that for sure. But I still think I’m just still eating too much food at this dinner.
And it’s hard for me to really put into context, really show listeners what that looks like just because we eat at different places every Sunday.
Maggie: Yeah. But you know, you just know based on how you feel. And you don’t have to be necessarily eating until you’re absolutely ill to know that you overate. When you eat past enough you’re just like, “Oh, I pushed it. I pushed it.” And I pushed it means your body is saying you missed the signal there or you just don’t even care. And I think that, that’s something I’ve been toying around with about a podcast about. Just sometimes we have a desire to just want to overeat. And you’ve mentioned that before. I don’t want to go to that place and pay attention to my hunger.
I want to go to that place and eat all of the things. And you kind of have to decide what you want to do with that because again, I don’t think there’s a problem with that necessarily. I mean it is telling your body, I know you’re full, but I don’t care. And we also had discussed getting really honest with the fact that we’ve got to stop telling ourselves that overeating feels better than adequately eating. Overeating is better than eating enough and we forget that. It’s one of the things that you really have to remind yourself of because it just feels if some dessert is good, more dessert is better.
Ryan: I feel that’s just a leftover habit that people don’t want to let go of.
Maggie: Yeah. No, I don’t want to have to think about this. We’ve all come from this place of blacking out and just doing whatever we want and being, better luck tomorrow.
Ryan: And eating to a point where you just feel, oh.
Maggie: Yeah. And it’s not comfortable. It’s not enjoyable. It’s not even pleasurable. You have to remember that at one point your brain will decide to stop. You don’t want to stop but at some point you do stop. And we’re just letting that go way, way too far before actually stopping.
Ryan: So why are the weekends so difficult?
Maggie: I wrote down what I feel were my issues here. So let me see. Yeah, weekends, I would say that was probably one of the hardest things for me to overcome and there were a couple of reasons. I think that if I were going to summarize it I would say I couldn’t make it more than five days. I was really, really good, and I don’t mean good like restrictive, I mean I was good at following my plan from Monday to Friday. And I couldn’t get over that Friday hump. Every Friday I promised myself I was going to stay on plan.
Every Monday I was regretting what I did and saying I wasn’t going to do that again and I would do it every single week. It was a way that I really beat myself to the ground because I couldn’t understand why I was doing what I was doing, when I promised myself I wouldn’t do it and then I promised myself I wouldn’t do it again. I’m talking about the promises I made to myself on Friday, you can do this.
Versus the promises I made on Monday, you’re not going to do that again. It’s not worth it, it’s screwing up your weight loss. It’s making you feel crap. You’re eating way too much. You’re making yourself sick. I was also never planning my favorite foods, but I was eating them anyway. And because I was eating them anyway, I was eating them in excess. I mean it would just honestly, the more that I get honest with it because I’ve had a lot of issues I’ve had to face in my life.
The amount of binging that I was doing flew completely under my radar because I had other more pressing issues I had to deal with, with myself. Most of my Fridays would kick off a weekend long binge.
Ryan: It’s such a vicious cycle that can make people feel very hopeless. So what the hell do we do about it?
Maggie: One of the things I wrote down was what I was doing. And I think those were the things that I was doing. I wasn’t being able to make it more than five days and I wasn’t ever planning my favorite foods. But I believe as with most everything that I teach, that the real problem was what I was believing about the weekends, about food, about what I was allowed to have, what I was not allowed to have.
So a couple of things that I wrote down was, I really just believed, and remember a belief is just something that you tell yourself so many times that you actually believe it. I believed that the weekends were so hard. Weekends are hard.
Ryan: I believe that right now.
Maggie: Yes. And a lot of people believe that. Weekends are challenging. I just felt like a victim. I really believed they had power over me. I can feel the cycle in my head of being like, “Should we get DoorDash? No, we shouldn’t get DoorDash, I’m not going to get it. Yes, I am. No.” I would spend three hours in that state because I was so committed to not doing it. This is a very prime example, by the way, my Vibe Club members will understand, of resisting an urge, of being like, “No, I don’t want to do it. Okay, I’m just going to look at the menu.”
Just caressing this idea of doing it and then being like, “No, that’s not what you want to do.” Very, very big urge resisting behavior.
Ryan: Weekends for me I believe are difficult, not because I have urges, but because I have stress.
Maggie: But the stress creates the urges.
Ryan: Yes. And that is what – yes, you’re right. You’re right. And it makes it hard.
Maggie: Yeah, we make it hard. It’s the perspective that always needs to change. And I remember believing, weekends are hard. I don’t have any control on the weekends. I go off the rails on the weekends. I’m powerless on the weekends. I just really believed and felt I had pretty good evidence to prove that the weekdays were easier. And I believed that, weekdays are easier, weekends are hard. So my experience with the weekdays was that they were super easy. And my experience with the weekends was that they were super hard. And I needed to shift that.
And so I mean I work on this with my clients quite a bit. But I think the first thing that has to be done is being very clear that the weekends are not harder, they are just different for most people with their schedules.
Ryan: Yeah, a 100%.
Maggie: My ADHD ass didn’t actually write down the end of what I was going to say of things that I have done. So hopefully I’ll just remember them off the top of my head. But the first thing is that you’ve got to know that it’s not necessarily harder, it’s just different. And so a lot of people will try to follow their exact same protocol that they have during the week on the weekends. And it’s just going to be impossible. So tell me what’s so hard about the weekends for you? I mean I know what it is but tell the people.
Ryan: We’re home with the kids, they’re screaming, they need stuff, this, and that and the other.
Maggie: We have a pretty structured work schedule during the week with a babysitter that watches the baby for three hours and Holden is at school. And so during the week it’s kind of like we get up, we get the kids ready, get him off to school, babysitter gets here. We go down and work. We come upstairs, the baby is napping, time for lunch.
Ryan: And there’s nothing to do also.
Maggie: It’s very structured.
Ryan: So I’m sitting around listening to kids screaming and whatever.
Maggie: And fighting and arguing.
Ryan: And I have nothing to do and that’s really it.
Ryan: So, what, what, what am I missing?
Maggie: Well, it’s just funny because what I notice when you’re in that frustrated spot, and I’m just using Ryan as an example because I know that everybody does it, is that I’ll also be like, “Okay, why don’t you go do this thing? Why don’t you do this? Why don’t you go here?” Trying to provide a solution to, okay, you’re antsy right now because you’re sitting around being annoyed. But then he’s so annoyed that he doesn’t want to go do anything else. It’s like, I don’t know, it’s like you could do something that structures your time a bit better.
Because the fact of the matter is your time is structured during the week, it’s not on the weekend. On the weekend anything goes, Moochie’s asking for a snack every four minutes. They’re fighting over stuff. Someone wants a balloon. But it’s that for two days straight. We’re not used to that. We have very solid breaks and a routine and pick up the kid from school. It’s just everything is perfectly laid out.
On the weekends aside from the fact that we do have a date night Sunday, especially the mornings on the weekends they just feel more chaotic because we don’t have that structure. We don’t have something to do. We’re bored. We’re restless. We’re frustrated. We’re annoyed. Again, it’s all those emotions that are not helpful for your weight loss. And our brain goes, this sucks, let’s eat. And so there’s so many things that you can do, there is. And I do have tips and ways that I have adjusted my protocol which I will share from the top of my head because it’s not on my list.
But we also have to really refuse to keep claiming that the weekends are so hard, and they’re such a challenge, and they’re so hard on us. And they’re so much harder than the week. I am not saying that it doesn’t feel harder. But it’s pretty clear what’s different and we need to plan for what’s different.
Ryan: It is different, but it does feel a lot harder. How do I believe that it’s only just different when it actually physically does feel a lot harder?
Maggie: Well, something I’m trying in my head to help to show people is that when you believe that it’s hard, I watch you. So I’m the little fly on the wall and you believe that it’s hard. I kind of keep myself busy, I just do a bunch of shit until I run out of shit on Sunday. But I watch you believe that it’s hard, say things like, “We’ve got to figure out something to do because then I get hungry,” or whatever. But then when you’re coming from this place of it’s such a challenge, you don’t actually find solutions. And that’s what I want to highlight here.
I just want to highlight the difference between it’s really hard on the weekends, I get starving on the weekends, that belief that it’s really hard and how what that leads you to do is to feel very powerless to the weekends. And that makes you eat, and it makes you get really frustrated. And that’s what we’re doing when we believe the weekend is hard. It does not put you in solution reality.
Whereas if we were going to troubleshoot right now and I told you weekends are not harder, weekends are different because we don’t have a babysitter, we don’t have a work schedule. It’s a different schedule on the weekends. What could you do so that you’re not just sitting around on the couch, honestly you’re not sitting around on the couch for eight hours a day, just being annoyed, and angry, and tired?
Ryan: I just, I need to find stuff to do.
Maggie: Yeah, what would that look like?
Ryan: Find some chores around the house, figure out where to take the kids to pass some time and to drain their energy. Find things to do.
Maggie: Just structure your time really, it’s unstructured time that you would like to have structured so that you have something to do. So you’re not sitting around just being like, “When’s lunch?” And that’s what I want to show is he just came up with a bunch of solutions but not only does telling ourselves that the weekends are hard, it just makes it hard on ourselves. It doesn’t open you up to solutions because you’re so angry about it. You’re so frustrated.
You’re so annoyed that you’re just like, “This time isn’t structured. I’m super restless but I also don’t want to do anything about it.” And it puts you in this place where of course you’re going to eat after a while because how many hours can you possibly put yourself through that? But then when I put you into solution mode where it’s like okay, let’s just go out on a ledge that’s maybe it’s not harder, maybe it’s just different. And maybe the only variable is that you don’t have work tasks to complete which is not even necessarily true. You could also have work tasks to complete.
But let’s just say it’s like, I don’t have work tasks to complete, both kids are home, and it’s just a bunch of free time for all of us. And when you look at the facts of that you can troubleshoot for like, okay, if I really do care about this, if I really don’t believe that these two days of the week are just magically hard, maybe I can actually problem solve for what we’re dealing with, which is unstructured time.
Maybe we don’t want to have unstructured time with a six year old and a two and a half year old. Maybe we don’t want to just leave ourselves up to whatever they choose to do because they’re going to choose to scream and bug. We would have a better time if we went somewhere. They would have a better time if we went somewhere. I mean not 30% true, because a lot of it is screaming on the way there and back.
Ryan: Lots of screaming.
Maggie: There’s just lots of screaming. I didn’t realize they would fight with each other so much. I guess I didn’t foresee that.
Ryan: I think it only gets worse from here too.
Maggie: I think that as well. So that’s another thing we need to work on accepting. But when you believe that the weekends are hard you sit around, and you pout about it. Not you specifically. I mean you as people who are really feeling like I wish I had something to do. I wish that I had tasks. As if you’re not in charge of giving yourself stuff to do and tasks. As if you’re not in charge of going and cleaning the barbecue or taking the kids to the arcade. You can do all of that stuff. But when we’re already in that angry, helpless space we don’t do that stuff.
Even though there’s literally 10 solutions in front of you, you take none of them because weekends are hard. And I’m not going to exert any extra energy. I’m already exhausted from sitting in this room with these kids for the last four hours. That’s the space we put ourselves in when we believe that. When we believe weekends aren’t hard, they’re just different. I have a different schedule on the weekends, it’s called no schedule. I would like to have a schedule on the weekends. So ultimately you could create your own weekend protocol.
Moochie wakes up at six, she’s been waking up earlier and earlier lately. But let’s just say we have from six to noon, the beginning of the morning starts off pretty fine. You could just make decisions of I’m going to take them to one place. And then by the time we’re home it’s lunchtime. And then everyone kind of chills out and then it’s nap time. You just have to structure your own time. But you first have to stop believing the weekend is hard.
So here’s a couple of things that I’ve done that really, really helped. One of them was I would come up with a weekend protocol that allowed me to eat earlier. Eating earlier I used to believe was going to lead to me eating all day. I don’t believe that anymore. Eating earlier normally just means that just that first meal is earlier. So I don’t try to wait till noon. I normally eat at 11 or 12. I would allow myself to eat earlier. The other one was that I would plan foods that I looked forward to. So those could be keto and low carb foods. That’s what I’m going to start with, keto and low carb foods.
I would DoorDash something that was keto. So if DoorDash was such a big issue for me, I just couldn’t stop DoorDashing Chinese, I was like, “You can DoorDash still.” So you won’t have to cook. You can be excited about something that someone else is making for you. But it can be a bomb bun-less burger with sautéed mushrooms. I would get hyped about what I was going to order off DoorDash on Fridays.
Ryan: You create that same feeling, that same sense of excitement, pre-excitement before the Chinese food came but just with something different.
Maggie: Yeah. Where it was like, we’re doing the same thing and I could eat earlier, or I could have something super fun. I’ve been having Del Taco, chicken soft tacos and swapping out the tortillas. They taste exactly the same. And that’s fun for me because Del Taco gets delivered to my front door. It’s low carb, I feel amazing after I eat it. That’s a total win. Then maybe on Saturday I wake up and maybe I’m hungry a little bit earlier, no big deal. I’ll eat at 9:30, it’s not a big deal at all. My plan gets followed completely the same.
But I don’t have to sit around with kids in unstructured time being like, “It’s not time to eat. It’s not time to eat. It’s not time to eat.”
Ryan: Yeah, fuck that.
Maggie: You’re probably not hungry. You’ll know, when you eat and you’re not hungry anymore and your brain shuts up, you are probably just hungry. And sometimes I like to believe that maybe I’m exerting more energy with my kids home than I would if I were down in my office just working. Maybe I am just hungrier a little bit earlier. And maybe it’s just okay to eat a little bit earlier. And then the last thing was a date night which was just like I don’t need to worry about escaping my plan because part of my plan is the foods that I love.
So when Friday night, Maggie’s brain is like, you know what would be good? Pot stickers, I get to say, “Yeah, we’re actually going to get sushi on Sunday.” So I understand you want that now but it’s totally no big deal because we’re going to have really bomb food without any kids around, separate on a date on Sunday night. You’re totally fine till Sunday night. So it’s these little ways, technically all I’m doing is just quieting my brain and being like, “No worries, dude.”
You want to order DoorDash, get a burger from Habit Burger, they’re bomb. That sounds bomb. That’s going to be really enjoyable. It’s going to make you feel really satiated and you’re going to wake up the next day feeling amazing. It used to be the same thing with drinking on the weekends too. At a certain point you have to get to a point where you’re like, I want to feel really good tomorrow. So what do I have to do to accomplish that?
I just think that in time your perspective changes on what you actually want for the weekend versus what everyone believes they want, is to just get freaking crunk out of their mind and just eat all the chips and dip, and all the food, that’s what they want to do all weekend. But at a certain point you have to ask yourself, is that actually what I want? Do I actually want that? To overdo it, to not feel good, to regret it on Monday especially when you have the opportunity to just plan this shit into your plan and not overeat it.
But then as Ryan brought up at the beginning, you’re going to have to address your desire just to overeat because what’s what you do on the weekends, because weekends are for letting loose. So those are the things that I changed that really helped. Can you think of anything that has helped your weekends? What keeps you from sticking your hand in a bag of whatever?
Ryan: What keeps me from doing that?
Maggie: Other than date night, have you made any adjustment to what you eat Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays?
Ryan: Fridays aren’t a problem.
Maggie: Okay, so it’s just Saturdays.
Ryan: Saturday and Sunday. And it’s really just Saturday.
Maggie: I like where this is going. Do you want to know why? Because people are dramatic. And people are like, “Weekends are so,” and when we get really factual, can we troubleshoot for one freaking day of the week? Of course you can. But when you’re telling yourself that weekends are a mess, and a disaster and I’m powerless to weekends. You can’t get to what the actual issue is which is you need a plan on Saturday. You need to clean one thing and go one place and then boom, your holes are filled up.
Ryan: Maybe have a coffee in the morning.
Maggie: Coffee in the morning that you look up to or look forward to.
Ryan: Scoop my pancakes an hour earlier, problem solved.
Maggie: Yeah. We’re going to get an update on Ryan’s weekends.
Ryan: And then Sundays we eat dinner at 3:30 on Sundays. So it’s like, can you get to 3:30, and you get your lunch too? Of course I can. It’s the actual meal on Sunday that was becoming an issue for me that I was completely overlooking.
Maggie: Yeah. Because I think we can get into the space of a little bit of entitlement of being like, “Listen, I’ve lost all this weight. I followed my plan every day this week overeating at one meal is not going to cause a problem.” And the data will show you.
Ryan: Of course, and there is no problem.
Maggie: Yeah, there isn’t a problem being created.
Ryan: There is no problem.
Maggie: You can literally choose to be done right this second, right now. It’s not what you want and the price that you will be paying is I need to learn how to enjoy the right amount of food at dinner on Sundays. And I need to learn how to structure my time on Saturdays.
Ryan: And it’s a lot of mental work to do what you just said, to enjoy the right amount of food at a restaurant.
Maggie: It is.
Ryan: It’s a lot of mental work.
Maggie: You have to get real honest with yourself. You have to have a real conversation in your brain that’s like, continuing to eat this won’t serve me. It’s not going to be better. It’s not going to feel better. It’s not going to be any more pleasurable than it was for the last 15 minutes while I’ve been eating it. Finishing it doesn’t do any magic. We go way deeper on that stuff in Vibe Club because there are tears of this process I feel. And you’re just kind of at the last one.
Ryan: There’s a lot of layers on that onion.
Maggie: And I kind of am too where it’s just kind of like, sorry, you don’t get to screw around anymore. But you screwed around through 90 pounds, so I think it lasts as long as it lasts [crosstalk].
Ryan: I posted this on my stories this morning that you can lose a lot of weight very sloppily.
Maggie: Sloppily, I have always believed that because it’s been my experience both times. Oops, I ate four Choc Zeros, my bad. It’s very, very sloppy but it was the consistency and decreasing that kind of stuff and increasing the good stuff. And balancing it out to the point where the weight kept falling off. Until you get to a point where I want to lose five pounds. And it’s like, okay, well, what lost you 60 is not going to lose you that last five pounds. Something has to give. And you get to decide if you want to give it. You can also decide I’m fine with the extra five pounds.
Or you can decide in order to be five pounds less I’m going to have to eat a little bit less. And are you willing to do that? Because at this point based on the way you follow your plan. And can I just say? Ryan has been using the Vibe Club stuff. He’s been doing the journaling, the planner, all of that kind of stuff. And I think it’s really given you a very clean insight into what you’re actually looking at here, right?
Ryan: I don’t really think I would have discovered what I did without it, as far as the Sunday night meals.
Maggie: Because you’re leaving it up to your brain to just be like, “No, I do good, what’s going on? Why am I still here?
Ryan: Yeah. It was a total blind spot for me.
Maggie: So you get to see and very few people will get to this spot, but you get to see in front of you, I am following my freaking plan, I am following it Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, oh, Saturday’s getting sketch, oh, Sunday’s getting sketchy. And then it’s like just a bright flash on exactly where your problem is, where most people want to tell themselves, I’m doing perfect. I’m doing all the things.
Ryan: Yeah. It caused me to really get into this robotic mode of okay, Monday through Friday is good. What else is going on here because I’m missing something? What else could it possibly be? And if you look at my weight loss graph.
Maggie: It does, it does go down and then a little up, and then down.
Ryan: It’s been the same since we started date night.
Maggie: In April?
Maggie: Okay. Of course it’s been the same but it’s going up and down?
Ryan: It’s, I’ve maintained my weight since April. I lost a lot of weight at the beginning of last year and maybe my composition has changed. But as far as my body weight goes, it has been the same since we started date night. So I think it’s just been a blind spot for me. I’m excited moving forward to really do that work. So we’ll see what happens.
Maggie: Okay, we’ll keep you updated.
Ryan: Alright guys.
Maggie: Right, see you next week.
Ryan: See you.