102 - What to Do When You Can’t Figure Out Weight Loss
We used to believe losing weight was hard. No matter how much progress was made, there were always stumbling blocks along the way that stumped us and made us feel like we just couldn’t figure it out. Sound familiar?
The truth is that “stuck” is just a feeling. It’s simply not a fact. But don’t let this discourage you because it might be the best news ever. If the scale isn’t going down, if you’ve been working on the same five pounds for what feels like forever, or if you don’t know where else to look and you’re confused, we’ve got the answers for you this week.
Join us on the podcast this week as we show you how getting caught up in confusion can be so detrimental, and what you can do when you just can’t figure it out. You don’t have to take drastic measures to get unstuck, and instead, we’re sharing our best recommendations for making smart decisions that move you forward.
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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
- One thing you can do today to stop feeling stuck on your weight loss journey.
- Why weight loss can so often feel so heavy and challenging.
- What to do if you’re stuck and you don’t know why.
- The power of creating and following a plan.
- How to stop being confused about why you’re not losing the weight you want.
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Maggie: In this episode we are going to talk about what to do when you can’t figure out weight loss. And what’s one thing you can do today to stop feeling stuck.
Hi, I’m Maggie. I’ve lost a combined 90 pounds after having my two kids and struggling with postpartum depression and anxiety. I teach you how to lose weight a different way, how to fix the thoughts in your head holding you back from finally taking weight loss off your to do list. Losing weight doesn’t need to be a struggle. And it’s my mission to help you love the process all the way down the scale. If you’re ready to lose weight a different way, then let’s get it.
Ryan: Hey everybody.
Maggie: Welcome to the podcast.
Ryan: How’s it going?
Maggie: Going amazingly amazing.
Ryan: I had a good idea for the topic for this week because losing weight is difficult. And throughout the journey, even at the beginning there are points where you seem like you just can’t figure it out. You know what I mean? Have you ever felt like that?
Maggie: I mean, yeah, lots of times.
Ryan: I feel like that when the scale doesn’t go down.
Maggie: That what?
Ryan: That I can’t seem to figure it out.
Maggie: It’s such a sabotaging thought.
Ryan: Well when the scale is the same for a month straight.
Maggie: Is this still ever the same for a month straight?
Ryan: I mean within a pound or two sometimes.
Maggie: Without any shenanigans?
Ryan: I’m not talking about that.
Ryan: I’m talking about looking at the scale and it’s going up and down one or two pounds.
Maggie: I know but what I’m saying is a lot of people will be like, “It’s not working, I can’t figure this out, I’m stuck.” But they are not taking in all of the data. They’re just taking in the scale. They’re not looking at well, I did overeat for four days that first week and I was out of town, and stuff like that. You know what I mean?
Ryan: Our memories are terrible though I feel.
Maggie: They’re terrible for the truth.
Ryan: Well, we have blinders on to the truth.
Maggie: Yeah. So, people will be like, “I have seriously been working on this six pounds for six months.” And will say stuff like that. And although that may be true, the scale may say that. It’s not stuck. We know what the problem is.
Ryan: But we act like we don’t.
Maggie: But we act like we don’t.
Ryan: Why is that?
Maggie: Because we want to be able to screw around without consequences, I think. It’s frustrating that we can’t be good a lot of the time. That’s what most people will say, “I’ve been being so good. I’ve been eating so good.” Which normally will translate into I’ve been being strict. But then we’re not taking into account all the times where we’re except for all those times. So, it’s clear what the problem is, we just want what we’re doing when we’re being good to make up for when we’re, you know.
Ryan: Well, it’s interesting, you can be stuck for an entire month but our memory’s looking back throughout the entire month. It’s like if it’s 30 or 40% eating too much we’re still only thinking about the times we have been good.
Maggie: Yeah. Well, we’re just focusing on our hard work. Just focusing on all the days that we did. I don’t know. I just, my connection to that is that most of the time when we’re like, “I have been working so hard.” That just means I really have been doing the most but, in a way, where it’s not sustainable things. It’s things like I’ve been eating my meal prep and I’ve been no alcohol and no sugar. And I’ve been doing, eating no bad things a lot of the time. And that just feels so heavy to us because it’s hard because we’re pushing ourselves. You know what I mean?
Ryan: Yes. And then when you go off, the days you go off.
Maggie: Yeah, you’re going off because you’re like, “I need a break from what I’m doing. I need a break from all of my hard work. I need a break from being good.” And then we look at the month over month and we’re like, “See, I’ve seriously been working on the same five pounds.” And it’s, yeah, because something overall with your adherence needs to change. And a lot of the time what needs to happen is those big screw it days and YOLO carb days and YOLO snack days and whatever. Those need to decrease. So, we have to work on the overeating.
Ryan: I feel like it’s been a while since either of us have been stuck without knowing exactly why it was.
Maggie: Yeah. And I think even when we were stuck before I just wasn’t really aware of where to look for what it was. Because again you feel like, I’m working so hard. I’m doing so good. And we just completely white out, I’m not even looking at anything I did, anything other than being good. But that happened eight days this month. Eight days and it’s like I don’t know what the problem is. I think I need to have a smaller dinner.
Ryan: If you’re stuck and you truly are like, “I really don’t know why.”
Maggie: That is such a small population of people. That is such a small percentage of people.
Ryan: I disagree.
Maggie: I disagree with your disagreement.
Ryan: But what I was going to say is if you truly feel you don’t know what the problem is you should probably start tracking your adherence. So, you can look back in the past 30 days and see exactly what days you went off.
Maggie: Well, and I’ve heard that from my clients recently. They were like, “I was never using the habit tracker and then once I did it was very eye-opening to what was actually happening.” Do not leave it up to your brain to be like, “I was so good in September.” Because if you actually had the data and I’m not saying you weren’t so good. But the data would probably show you that there was a lot of overeating, a lot of off plan eating. And some of you aren’t even making a plan. Do you know what I mean?
So that’s why some of those things need to be in place to even be able to track. But collecting the data will show you exactly what’s happening. And so, adherence is super important to track if you’re like, “What’s going on here? What’s the problem? How often am I actually doing the things that I need to do to keep this process moving?” And you may feel it’s a lot. But a lot is not a fact. A lot is subjective to everybody. That doesn’t mean anything. It means something different to every single person you talk to.
Ryan: And let’s clarify. When we say track your adherence, we don’t mean log your calories in a calory app. What do you mean?
Maggie: I mean how many days are you making a plan? I have my clients track all this. How many days are you following your plan? Are you drinking water? Are you moving your body at all? Mostly it’s going to be how often are you making your plan and following your plan? And also, how often is overeating happening, or eating off plan by its licks and tastes? All that kind of stuff. All of that stuff contributes and we just only – you just can’t leave it up to your brain and its memory of we did so good. I wasn’t even that bad.
And we’ve got to stop using words like that too. There are going to be days where you follow your plan and days when you don’t follow your plan. It’s very important for you to know the difference. What is the percentage that I’m following my plan? I think that’s going to trigger some people to think, see, I knew I had to be perfect to lose weight. And that’s not it at all. I have had clients who had less than 50% adherence still lose four pounds in a month, less than 50% of the time they were following their plan and they still lost weight.
So, you’d be shocked at what a little bit of basically planning and following your plan really just cleans up a lot of messes you didn’t know was there.
Ryan: Well, when you have to follow a plan you made, you’re going to be resisting urges to eat.
Maggie: Yeah. And it also just, it shines such a bright light on all the eating you were doing that just was totally mindless while you’re cooking, while you’re in the pickup line, in between dinner and lunch, after, just grab, for me it was always just grab some nuts, grab some almonds or something. That kind of stuff, that was the biggest thing that planning changed for me is I realized how much mindless eating I was doing. And so, the planning will put you into a mindful state. And the mindful state notices all the bullshit that’s happening outside of whatever your plan is.
Ryan: So, a lot of people are tracking their adherence and they’re good 89% for a month and their weight is still stuck or they feel they can’t figure it out.
Maggie: I mean there’s a couple of options. One of them is how many days are you actually – I don’t know what the percentage would be but is there any way to reduce the overeating on the days when you are overeating or the off plan exceptions where you’re like, “I wasn’t planning on eating any of this and I ate all this stuff.” Can we reduce those?
But when people are really being steady for a really long amount of time, and they really aren’t being dishonest with what they’re actually doing and not doing. What it comes down to is your fullness signal is most likely just keeping you maintaining. And so, you need to reevaluate that enough, that enough is now just enough to keep you where you’re at. And so, then it comes down to eating less in different ways that you can practice eating less and not eliminating a meal, just portion sizes will get a little bit smaller by a matter of bites.
Ryan: There’s a lot of tricks you can do. When we say eat less, you’re eating too much food. There’s a lot of tricks you can do to reduce the amount of eating without actually reducing the amount of eating.
Maggie: Yeah, because when you hear, “Eat less,” then you’re like, “See, calories in, calories out, eat less.” It triggers this whole, I need to be eating significantly less. And no, you do not need to be eating significantly less.
Ryan: You could change the foods you’re eating. You know what I mean? If you’re eating chips at your meal, how full is that making you?
Maggie: Yeah. And those are really good times to assess where am I ready to up-level? Where am I ready to take my nutrition maybe to the next level? Where am I ready to just get more nutrient dense foods into my diet? It’s just a good time to evaluate stuff and see how you can take things to the next level. It doesn’t need to mean you’re going to be suffering a ton or eating a ton less. It’s just a time to be like, “Alright, what I’m doing, something needs to change.”
But like I said, for most people, most people are not – when I’m not losing weight, when I’m gaining weight it’s always because I’m dicking around, always. There is no confusion. There is no, “I’ve been working on the same six pounds for six months.” No. Yeah, because I lose weight and I gained some weight. And then I lose that weight, and then I gain that weight. And then I lose that weight because I’m dicking around, that’s it. I’m not confused at all. I know exactly what causes my weight gain. I know exactly how to lose the weight.
So, most of the time we know what the issue is. The issue is we’re overeating. And then we have to ask ourselves. We have to figure out why are we doing that? Do we need to be planning more foods that we love? What do we need to be doing to lower the desire to just eat, and eat, and eat, or just eat a bunch of foods that we don’t ever allow ourselves to have?
Ryan: Yeah, I’ve become really good at that recently. I eat chicken and potatoes or steak and potatoes for dinner. It’s so good, a steak.
Maggie: You start realizing you’re doing yourself a favor, by the way, that you feed yourself. You can totally lose weight eating however you want. But it does get to a point where you’re like, “Okay, but.” What were we comparing? Ryan made me a bowl of oatmeal. I guess I’ll just never forget this experience because I’ve shared it three times between my clients and other places. But he made me oatmeal and he hands me this big ass bowl of oatmeal, it’s huge. And he’s like, “It’s a serving of oatmeal.” It was half a cup, right?
Maggie: But it was huge, it expands and stuff and then I add a little bit of milk to it and some sugar free sugar sweetener. It was so good. But it was so much food. But then we compare it to others, but it couldn’t have been more than 200 calories. It couldn’t have been because I didn’t even eat the strawberries I added to it.
Ryan: It wasn’t.
Maggie: No. It was a little bit of milk, the oats and that’s it, and the sweetener which doesn’t have any calories. But then you look at these other snacks. What did you look at? The Ritz Bits package that we looked it up, it was 220 calories. You did nothing for your actual hunger. So, you get to this point where you’re like, no, I can oatmeal and I’m good. Whereas if you did the exact same thing where I’m ready to eat, I’m going to eat this little container of Ritz Bits. You almost feel like you went in reverse. You’re actually more hungry now.
Ryan: It’s so frustrating.
Maggie: So, it’s funny, calories in, calories out, okay.
Ryan: Quality of food matters.
Maggie: But if I eat two hardboiled eggs, you’re telling me that’s the same thing as eating a thing of Ritz crackers. I’m sorry, that’s fine. You can believe that but we’re going to disagree because the satiating, the nutrients, the fat protein ratio, it’s just going to do me different than food. So those kind of up-levels can be really helpful when you’re just needing to shake things up a little bit, get things moving, maybe feel even better than you’re feeling. And it’s just hard to overeat on whole foods.
Ryan: It is, it really is, try it.
Maggie: And I hate saying that. Whole nutrient dense foods, it sounds like the most boring thing ever. But it’s bomb, you learn to love it, and season it in a way that’s good and very, very satiating versus the kind of stuff that really lights our brain up but does nothing for our hunger, no fullness, no, I feel good. You can eat oatmeal and be good for four more hours. I can eat Ritz Bits and be like I’m now starving. I’m hungrier now. But well, it was 200 calories, that’s right, calories is the same thing but it’s, no. No.
That’s why my first meal of the day is always higher in fat and lower in carbs because it just makes me feel good. So, you need to evaluate. You may even be able to eat less by eating smarter, eating in a way that’s more satiating to you. So, eating less doesn’t necessarily mean you eat less food. It may just mean eating more quality food that’s actually going to get you further. Yeah. We’re not trying to life hack anything other than the fact that when I eat this, my body feels taken care of. When I eat it, my body feels like I’m good.
Ryan: Yeah. Personally, that’s why I had to stop eating those Built Bars.
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It's so funny, if I eat a Built Bar at the end of a day, I am so good. If I’m hungry I eat it and I’m completely satiated from the protein. And for Ryan, I guess they were just literally like candy bars, which I would never eat more than one at a time. So that’s how I know that…
Ryan: Everyone is different.
Maggie: Everyone is different, yeah.
Ryan: You get to experiment for sure. And on the topic of feeling stuck, and I know you’re going to have a lot to say about this. But thinking those thoughts and having those feelings are probably not great for you getting unstuck.
Maggie: Well, here’s the thing. Stuck is not a fact. Stuck is not a circumstance. We believe that it is. If you’ve listened to the podcast a lot, you’re going to understand what I’m saying. But when I say it’s not a fact, I mean that we can’t prove what stuck is.
Ryan: What do you mean?
Maggie: When you say you’re stuck, what do you actually mean?
Ryan: My weight’s not going down.
Maggie: Yeah. And so, we could talk about your weight not going down, but we don’t describe it that way for the most part. We describe it as I am stuck. But stuck isn’t a fact. We can’t prove it. We can’t prove that you’re stuck. We could maybe prove the facts about the scale but again a lot goes into the scale. Stuck is a feeling. Stuck is how we feel. It’s not a fact about what’s happening. We can’t prove we’re stuck but we can feel stuck. But the only way that we feel stuck is because of what we’re thinking. So, your scale may not be moving but that doesn’t cause you to feel stuck.
What causes you to feel stuck is what you’re making it mean. What are you making it mean when the scale isn’t moving the way you want it to?
Ryan: The scale is just a circumstance and I have a thought about.
Maggie: You have a thought about the scale not moving the way you want it. What are you making it mean?
Ryan: I’m stuck.
Maggie: No, stuck is how you feel. This is the weird thing because you can kind of put it in two different ways. You could also say, “I’m stuck,” which would make you feel how?
Maggie: Yeah, it doesn’t make you feel good. So, there’s lots of different ways to do this. But the way that you’re putting it is we can put it two different ways. You can either tell yourself you’re stuck which is going to make you feel terrible. It’s going to make you feel powerless. It’s going to make you feel confused. Those kind of things, you don’t want those things driving your problem solving to where you’re like, “Now I’m going to take action from being confused.” When we’re confused because we’re telling ourselves we’re stuck a lot of us will get rid of lunch, because it’s time to go to lunch.
Ryan: This is so common.
Maggie: It’s so common.
Ryan: People do drastic dumb shit when they’re confused.
Maggie: Yeah. And a lot of the time we’re trying to overcompensate for whatever we did before. We have to undo what we already did that is causing that stuck-ness. So, you can tell yourself you’re stuck which is going to make you feel powerless and very confused. And it’s going to make you take action that’s not very well thought out. It’s going to be more restrictive than it needs to be. It’s going to be aggressive action. It’s not sustainable but it will hopefully help you in the short term to redirect yourself, reset, get yourself back on track.
But you can also feel stuck, and you can feel stuck from telling yourself, “I’m never going to figure this out.” I’ve been working on the same six pounds for the last six months. That’s going to create a feeling in your body of like I feel stuck. I feel stuck in cement.
Ryan: I always ask Maggie, “What do I do with those thoughts?”
Maggie: Well, the most powerful thing you can do with the thoughts is to know that those thoughts aren’t going to drive action that’s actually going to get you what you want. It’s going to most likely cause you to take action that again feels too aggressive and is going to cause you to overeat. And guess what, guys? I have the biggest announcement for you guys right now. You will never break a stall; you will never get out of being stuck by overeating. It’s never going to work. And yet a lot of us are doing something where we’re getting so restrictive that we drive the overeating.
So many of us will be like, “It’s not working. So, I’m going to go eat 60 tacos and four margheritas.” That will never solve the stuck-ness, that will never break a stall, that will never solve the problem.
Ryan: You mean it’s not working so I might as well just not do anything about it?
Maggie: This isn’t working so why am I even working for? I’m stuck. Things aren’t moving. The scale’s not even going down so what’s the point? And then we overeat, a lot of the time the thinking that we’re having that’s causing the stuck-ness actually drives overeating.
And then we overeat because we’re so frustrated about what us being stuck, overeating is never going to get you unstuck. It’s never going to get you past a stall. It’s never going to get the scale to move in a good way. It’s always going to take you backward. And then you are going to establish your stuck-ness by taking yourself even further back in the process.
Ryan: Yeah. Don’t you always recommend, instead of feeling stuck or having the thoughts of being stuck to feel more curious?
Maggie: Yeah. What could be going on here? What could I be missing here? What could I try today that could possibly get things moving? What am I missing? Curiosity is going to be so much better than helplessness, or you aren’t stuck. That’s not a real thing. It is true that you may have been working on the same five pounds for a matter of time but that doesn’t mean you’re stuck. It means the scale has bopped from one weight to another weight and it’s gone within that range. But that’s not a problem, it’s just a fact that you can look at and decide what you want to think about it.
I think that means I need to start paying a little bit more attention on Fridays. Instead, what we do is we say, “That means I’m stuck. What else could it mean?” You always want to be asking yourself, “What else could this mean?” My default is going to be I’m stuck, this isn’t working, I knew this wouldn’t work, what’s the point? That’s going to be your default brain.
But your intentional brain could say, “What else is possible here? Could it be that it’s time for me to up-level in some area of my weight loss journey? Do I need to add more quality food? Do I need to maybe incorporate some movement? Do I need to drink more water? Do I need to troubleshoot my overeat?”
Ryan: Stop eating in between meals.
Maggie: There’s so many options but as you can see, we just came up with a bunch of possibilities of what else that range of six pounds could mean as opposed to I’m stuck again, I’m stuck, I’m so stuck, I can’t get unstuck. You’re not going to find your way out of that when you keep telling yourself, “See, I’m stuck.” A lot of us will get stuck at a certain place. Well, I keep getting stuck at 173. I got stuck in the 90s and 180s, 170s, 160s, 150s all the way down. What else could it mean? Sometimes it doesn’t mean anything. Sometimes it means keep going. And that’s kind of up for you to decide.
Other times it means I’m being sloppy. I know I’m not stuck, I’m overeating two times a week, not’s being stuck, that’s I’m overeating two times a week. We can’t get it twisted. You telling yourself you’re stuck will never solve your problem. You telling yourself, “What can I do to get things moving again,” is an immediate perspective shift that will start taking you down a road of solutions, and possibilities, and things to try versus I’m stuck. And when we’re stuck, stuck is stuck. You’re just stuck. You don’t move anywhere from that place.
You want to get yourself into a place where it gets your brain pumping and thinking of, I do feel I’m overeating even just by a little bit every day at dinner. I feel I make these delicious dinners and I want to eat them all. What if I really started tuning into my fullness at dinnertime, that’s it. One meal a day I’m going to really focus to fullness. It can be as simple as that that can get things moving again. But instead, we go, “I’m stuck. I’m stuck. I need to not eat dinner anymore.” Rather than being like there are a million tiny little changes you can make.
And you’ll find what those changes are when you stop telling yourself the story, “I’m stuck.”
Ryan: Leave two bites on your dinner plate every night.
Maggie: Yeah. Well, that’s not enough, that’s not going to do enough. That’s what you want to say. It is enough. The difference between maintaining and losing is normally just a couple of bites. It’s not what we think it is. And then what we do is we jump to something that’s like I keep using as an example, we’re just not going to do lunch anymore. And then not doing that causes us to feel really, really restricted that we’re not eating enough. We’re resentful of it. We’re not enjoying the process. We’re hungry all the time.
And then that causes overeating and then that causes us to gain weight. So, we have to really watch out for that cycle that starts with the restriction. The depravation, the sabotaging, the guilt. A lot of us are constantly in that cycle.
Ryan: I have a tip, I know a lot of people that are listening to this are probably keto and low carb.
Maggie: Okay, from the not keto guy, hit me with it.
Ryan: How much cheese are you eating? How much sour cream and ranch are you eating?
Maggie: Yeah. This feels like a personal attack.
Ryan: Do you know how quick that stuff adds up?
Ryan: Do you have any idea?
Maggie: That’s a very easy way for keto and low carb people to eliminate overall eating, overall intake.
Ryan: Eat something different.
Maggie: And know that in the beginning and probably for a lot of your weight loss, you can eat a good amount of fat but towards the end you want your body to use its own fat. You want your body to dine in on that fat. And the more you’re adding of dietary fat the more your body is like, alright, yeah, we’ll use this first rather than using your own fat. So, I think the further you get into keto, as in the further you get into your weight loss where I have only 20 pounds to lose or I only have 10 or five pounds to lose, that will be my first go to.
Sometimes I will grab a big thing of cheese and then sprinkle a little bit of cheese and be like that’s a cheese vibe. I don’t need a fourth of a cup of cheese to get the cheese vibe. I want cheese in my meal.
Ryan: I just see all of these videos on Instagram and TikTok of just these lava mountain of cheese. And it’s like dude, you can’t eat that much cheese and lose weight. I’m sorry. I know people claim they do. Maybe if they have a 100 pounds to lose it’ll work.
Maggie: Yeah. And that’s easier in the beginning. If you get to a point where things are stalling out and I’m eating pretty normally like I normally eat, then look, are you cradling everything in cheese? Trust me, I have lost a lot of weight cradling stuff in cheese. But I did get to a point where I was like, “Okay, is it going to be bacon or cheese? Is it going to be avocado or an egg? I have to eat a lot smaller fatty salads now. But they’re fine, they’re satiating. I think I was way overdoing it in the past.
But I have an egg and I eat a quarter of an avocado. And I eat a half a slice of bacon just because I know they’re all so fat heavy, and therefore calorie dense. And therefore, satiating and filling. You’d be shocked at how much when you have food that’s higher fat, you don’t need as much of it to feel satiated, and feel full and feel good.
Ryan: I have another really good practical tip that’s kind of off topic. We don’t normally talk about food tips. Chicken breast is really lean, really high protein, really low calorie, and it’s hard to get right. You know what I mean? It’s hard to cook it good. I recently discovered putting it in the sous vide. So, I vacuum seal a chicken breast, I cook it at 145, I know you think it needs to be internal 165, but if you check the food safety, if you cook it for over 30 minutes it doesn’t have to be 165. So, I cook at 145 in the sous vide for an hour and a half. It’s the most tender, juiciest chicken breast I’ve ever had.
Maggie: Yeah, chicken breast is disgusting but I have tried the sous vide and it is good. But I still haven’t eaten it. I still don’t want it. But Ryan is eating it all the time. I love thighs though.
Ryan: It’s juicy.
Maggie: So, it makes sense.
Ryan: And I mean the macronutrients between thighs and breast isn’t that different. And it’s just been something I’ve recently changed and just eating a big old chicken breast has just been amazing for me.
Maggie: There are just little shifts that you can make that don’t necessarily mean you’re eating so much less food. You could literally be like, “I’m going to have a little bit less dietary fat. I’m going to switch from thighs to breast.” And that’s the switch. Nobody took any of your food away. You’re just eating food that’s just naturally, it’s just lower in calories or it’s just less in fat. And then you know that’s just going to be less overall intake.
Ryan: So, to wrap this up here. I think the number one takeaway is the feeling of feeling stuck.
Maggie: Yeah, stuck is not a fact, stuck is a feeling. And so, you want to know what are you telling yourself. And also, just you don’t need to dig in too deep to what I’m saying. You need to know, telling myself I’m stuck is never going to get me unstuck. Telling myself the story of I’m so stuck, I’m so stuck won’t ever get me unstuck. I must choose a different story if I’m to get unstuck. If I’m going to get unstuck, I need to tell myself a different story. I’m sure there’s something that I’m missing here, what can I do just for today?
You have to redirect your brain from no, I swear it’s stuck, to just any other possibility for you that tells yourself I’m going to look at the data a little bit, a little bit harder. I’m going to see what I’m missing here. I’m going to experiment with different little things that I can try. I’m not going to be overreactive. I’m going to take small simple steps to get things moving. Even I’m going to take steps to get things moving is very different than how do I get unstuck? How do I stop being stuck? It’s going to have a different vibe to it and it’s going to help you get moving.
Telling yourself you’re stuck is never going to do that for you. It’s going to keep you stuck.
Ryan: If you take one thing away from this entire episode, stop thinking you’re stuck.
Maggie: Yeah. Stop telling yourself you’re stuck. Stuck is not real.
Ryan: It’s not real.
Maggie: Stuck is not real. There are facts. And look at the facts. Stop telling yourself the story of stuck-ness and start looking at the facts instead. The facts will tell you exactly what you need to do. Your story of stuck-ness will not, it will keep you very confused.
Ryan: Well, there you go.
Maggie: Alright, see you guys next time.
Ryan: See you.